In the Catholic Church today, synodality has emerged as a profound call to journey together as the People of God. Promoted by Pope Francis, it emphasizes listening, dialogue, and communal discernment, inviting all members of the Church—clergy, religious, and laity—to participate actively in the mission of evangelization. At its core, synodality is about accompanying one another on the path of faith, discerning the Holy Spirit’s guidance amid the complexities of modern life. Yet, this beautiful vision is not without its hurdles. Implementing synodality often encounters challenges such as tensions from structural changes, conflicts arising from diverse viewpoints, and difficulties in fostering genuine dialogue in a polarized world. In parish settings, these issues can manifest as misunderstandings, resistance to change, or even interpersonal clashes that hinder communal harmony.
As parish priests, we are at the forefront of this synodal journey. Our role is not merely administrative but profoundly pastoral: to walk alongside our people, understanding their unique stories, struggles, and aspirations. But how do you bridge the gaps when people seem so different—when a heated parish council meeting leaves you feeling surrounded by conflicting opinions? Enter Thomas Erikson’s insightful book, Surrounded by Idiots* which offers a practical framework for understanding human behavior through four color-coded personality types: Red, Yellow, Green, and Blue. Drawing from the DISC model in psychology, Erikson teaches that what we often label as “idiotic” behavior is simply a mismatch in communication styles. By adapting to these types, you can transform synodal challenges into opportunities for deeper accompaniment, fostering a parish where everyone feels heard and valued.
Understanding the Four Personality Types in Parish Life
Erikson’s model reminds us that no one is an “idiot”—just wired differently. In a synodal context, where listening and inclusion are key, recognizing these types can help you navigate diverse temperaments. Let’s explore each, with practical advice on how to accompany them.
Red: The Decisive Trailblazers
Reds are dominant, goal-oriented, and impatient—think of the parishioner who storms into your office demanding immediate action on a social justice initiative or criticizing the pace of parish reforms. Their strengths lie in leadership and quick decision-making, making them invaluable for driving synodal processes forward. However, their directness can come across as aggressive, sparking conflicts in group discussions and alienating more reserved members.
To accompany Reds on their journey, communicate concisely and focus on results. Acknowledge their drive: “I appreciate your passion for change—let’s outline clear steps together.” In synodal listening sessions, channel their energy into actionable plans, preventing frustration from derailing dialogue. By doing so, you honor their God-given zeal while modeling patience, turning potential clashes into collaborative momentum.
Yellow: The Enthusiastic Connectors
Yellows are social butterflies—creative, optimistic, and impulsive. In your parish, they might be the ones organizing vibrant events or sharing inspiring testimonies, but their enthusiasm can lead to scattered ideas or overlooked details during synodal consultations. Their weakness? Prioritizing relationships over structure, which might frustrate more analytical types and dilute focused discernment.
Accompany Yellows by engaging socially and celebrating their creativity. Start conversations with warmth: “Your energy lights up our community—what excites you about this synodal path?” Encourage their input in brainstorming sessions, but gently guide them toward concrete commitments. This approach not only validates their relational gifts but also helps integrate their joy into the parish’s collective journey, countering the challenge of superficial engagement in synodality.
Green: The Harmonious Supporters
Greens are the steady hearts of your flock—patient, empathetic, and conflict-averse. They excel at building community, offering quiet support in prayer groups or volunteer roles. Yet, in synodal settings, their resistance to change and avoidance of confrontation can stall progress, especially when hot-button issues like parish restructuring arise. They may nod along in meetings but harbor unspoken reservations, leading to unaddressed tensions.
To walk with Greens, be calm, sincere, and appreciative. Give them space to express themselves: “I value your steady presence—how does this feel to you?” In accompaniment, prioritize building trust through one-on-one encounters, allowing them to open up gradually. This fosters the synodal ideal of harmony, transforming potential passivity into active, empathetic participation that enriches the entire community.
Blue: The Analytical Guardians
Blues are detail-oriented and cautious, thriving on precision and high standards. In parish life, they’re the ones meticulously reviewing financial reports or ensuring liturgical accuracy. Their logical approach strengthens synodal discernment, but their reserved nature and perfectionism can make them seem distant or overly critical, exacerbating divides in diverse groups.
Accompany Blues by providing detailed information and time for reflection. Say, “Let’s review the data together—your insights ensure we’re on solid ground.” In synodal processes, respect their need for analysis by incorporating structured feedback mechanisms. This not only leverages their gifts but also addresses challenges like methodological problems in implementation, promoting thorough, Spirit-led decisions.
An Exhortation to Parish Priests: Adapt, Accompany, and Transform
Dear brother priest , the synodal path is a call to emulate Christ, who accompanied disciples on the road to Emmaus with patience and understanding. Erikson’s framework equips you to do just that: by adapting your communication—being direct with Reds, warm with Yellows, gentle with Greens, and precise with Blues—you dismantle barriers that make us feel “surrounded by idiots.” This isn’t about labeling people but about seeing them through God’s eyes, as unique creations with strengths to offer the Church.
Embrace self-awareness: Reflect on your own color (perhaps a mix) and how it influences your leadership. In the face of synodality’s challenges—like declining trust or ideological divides—commit to ongoing formation in these skills. Lead listening circles where personalities shine, not clash. Accompany journeys not as a solo guide but as a fellow traveler, fostering a parish alive with the Holy Spirit’s unity.
In doing so, you’ll discover that synodality isn’t a burden but a grace. By understanding and adapting, you transform your parish into a true synodal community—one where every voice contributes to the symphony of faith. As Erikson reminds us, effective communication unlocks potential; in the Church, it unlocks the Kingdom. Go forth, Father, and walk with your people.
